Great Expectations!!!

A follow-up on my earlier blog. Not that I am trying to delve into the dismal abyss of psychology. I call it dismal coz the deeper you get, the more complicated and mind-fogging it gets. The human mind is an object of the greatest mystery....capable of feeling the most extreme of emotions at any point of time.

The wise men say 'Lower your expectations, or improve your reality - two ways to achieve happiness'. Expectation being the keyword here. How hard or easy is it to separate this emotional phenomenon from our social being and stay in harmony with 'as is'? How does one 'un-feel' the anguish of attachments that sometimes hurt? How does one break free from the hopes and dreams that lie in our subconscious mind? Mind you, some of these 'expectations' stay hidden from us only to spring in front of our eyes in case of a sudden surprise or disappointment. How do you control something not visible most of the time?

Lowering expectations would probably lead you down to the path of detachment. To the path meant only for you to tread on. Here, you wouldn't have to worry about anyone else's needs or desires or dreams or wants or even fears. Here, it would be you, just you. Unshaped by anyone. A naked, true YOU. Free, albeit, lonely.

So, being lonely, can be both, happy as well as sad. Hmmm!!! Food for thought, huh?

So how do I 'not' expect? Can I 'not' expect? Should I 'not' expect? Well, I think I won't try to control my natural innane self that expects, either consciously or unconsiously. I just need to figure out how to handle disappointments. ;) Dream I will, but will learn how to arise. Fly I will, but with a parachute. Swim I will, but with a life jacket ;). Does that sound like a good plan????