We are a country that is extremely proud of its values and culture. Marriages are considered sacred, families don’t break, kids don’t leave the parents and thereby, you maintain your ‘aan’ and ‘baan’ in the society. Now how do we make sure that in this 'modern' age, we continue to preserve our 'khaandan ka naam' and keep our families together?
People in India have only one bakra to shoulder this responsibility. The BAHU. The new and naveli dulhan. She is the bringer of all good or evil. The saas/sasur/husband etc. are dudh ka dhula. So we need to 'coach' only our upcoming bahus to some special lessons as she can make or break families.
People in India have only one bakra to shoulder this responsibility. The BAHU. The new and naveli dulhan. She is the bringer of all good or evil. The saas/sasur/husband etc. are dudh ka dhula. So we need to 'coach' only our upcoming bahus to some special lessons as she can make or break families.
To address this special need of the time, this university in Madhya Pradesh is coming up with a 3-month course titled ‘Sanskaari Bahu’ from next year. The university wants to impart the correct ‘sanskaars’ to the upcoming bahus. According to my imagination, the modules covered will be:
A. Worship Thy Husband who is your Lord
B. Worship Thy Saas who gave birth to your Lord
C. Sacrifice – Your prime virtue
D. Khud tuto par parivar ko tutne na do
E. Road to Heaven
So, all you moms and dads who are looking for a suitable groom, make sure you enroll your daughter for this course. The certificate will give you an edge over the ‘competitors’ and hopefully get your daughter a very ‘sanskaari’ parivaar.
Do you see my blood boiling and my gut curling at the very thought of this? You can’t. It is making me so mad that I am delirious with the absurdity and stupidity of this whole thing.
Yes, the girl is coming into your family. You have certain habits and ways, but she has her own habits and ways as well. Change can’t be one-way. It needs to be both ways. If you want her to adjust to your ways, you need to adjust some for her as well.
The saas-es of today as well as yesteryears, despite all the so-called wisdom and maturity that they have achieved over the years, fail to realize one thing. The flow is Love >> Happiness >> Willing sacrifices >> Unity. You can’t skip the first two steps and expect to land on the third step directly.
And have you ever heard of any saas being burnt, or any husband being tortured? I doubt you have. Don't you think there should be a 'Sanskaari Saas' class instead? Or a 'Your-wife-is-not-your-maid for the dummies'?
While the western world is taking a step forward with the #metoo movement, here we are, taking a step backwards with our 'Sanskaari-bahu' certificates. It's ridiculous!
And have you ever heard of any saas being burnt, or any husband being tortured? I doubt you have. Don't you think there should be a 'Sanskaari Saas' class instead? Or a 'Your-wife-is-not-your-maid for the dummies'?
While the western world is taking a step forward with the #metoo movement, here we are, taking a step backwards with our 'Sanskaari-bahu' certificates. It's ridiculous!
Let’s not preach – Our families are together because we are Indians.
Let it be – Our families are together because we all love each other.